MY WISH FOR NIGERIA (POEM)

I wish I had a magic wand
I wish I could change Nigeria
I wish to see a better Nigeria
I wish, we had good leaders
I wish our country was someone's dream
I wish a better Nigeria existed
I wish to wake up to a better Nigeria
I wish! , I wish! ,I wish!

My view on The Same Sex Marraige (Prohibition) Act (2013)

Yesterday my hubby was reading a Nigerian National Newspaper, and when I asked  him  for the main news, he said he was reading about gays and lesbians in Nigeria, they actually made the Headline. The other day my little cousin was imitating his sister and next thing I heard was ‘ Hakeem, stop behaving like a gay’. You turn on the radio, the discussions going on is all about gays and homosexuals. Honestly I have always known that homosexuals existed in Nigeria(Minority), but never believed that they were our main concern, when we have issues like terrorist attack, kidnapping, Assu strike, high level of unemployment, and poor economic condition in Nigeria to say the least. Its on this note that I congratulate, Federal Government for their massive publicity of same sex relationship.  This is exactly how developed countries like America who are now open to gay started, it was controversy upon controversy, punishment of offenders, discrimination,  publicity, more publicity through movies, press, music  etc until they started embracing it .

Are you visiting my blog, expecting that I may be supporting gay relationship? my response to this new law is as provided in the Act. The Same Sex Marriage (Prohibition) Act imposes a prison sentence of 14 years for anyone found guilty of engaging in same-sex relationships, and states that anyone who "administers, witnesses, screens, abets and aids" a same-sex union can be imprisoned for 10 years.

 Ignorance of the law is not an excuse. What this means is that if I support same sex marriage I am most likely going to be sentenced for 10yrs, even if I don’t practice it. So I have no intention of spending time in KIRI KIRI PRISON! So I leave the struggle for the gays. Cheers.

 

My New year resolution.

every new year we make  new year resolutions, cant really remember if i always accomplish them, i usually have a very long list of things i want to achieve, hmm i know loosing weight is always on top of my list. this year i intend to make it very short. looking at my my blog i realize that the last time i posted on my blog was in August 2013, thus  my first resolution for the year, would be to be a little bit consistent with my blog, second would be to maintain a healthy diet and continue with my regular exercise, devote enough time to God and my Family. i think this would do for now. it feels good to be back, hoping that i continue posting on this blog. lol! i wish to appreciate all those that have viewed my blog, and sent messages to me, thank you very much, not excluding those who have called to ask questions. its proof that my work is not in vein. love u all. cheers.

happy happy new year. (2014)

CLIENT: HELP MY LANDLORD IS THROWING OUT MY THINGS!

a call from my client woke me up from sleep this morning. it was a cry for help. it happened that for close to two years he has not paid his rent, he consulted me five months ago seeking my counsel on how to go about his financial mess vis a vis his unpaid rent, i did advice that since his landlord was no longer interested in him as his tenant, it was time for him to go, but that it was important  we replied the latest notice to quit, stating clearly when he intends to vacate the premises. that was the last time i saw him until yesterday when he brought my legal fees to commence a reconciliation process with his landlord, i did the draft copy of the letter, which he was suppose to read today, before we send it to the Landlord's lawyer, but that letter was never typed as the landlord came in this morning with touts to throw out his things. i got to the premises in time to meet the Landlord and the touts, as they sealed up the premises. the Landlord told me expressly and confidently, that he knew his actions were wrong and unlawful, but that he was ready for the consequences of his actions, he said the Tenant has not paid him since 2010, and that his daughter needed the apartment for her personal use. i was shocked as it turned out that the Tenant lied to me about the duration of time and debt owed. i appealed to the landlord, but he nodded his head continuously, there was no going back, what is done is done. i felt for my client's  wife and 5 months old baby and other kids that lived in the house ( his nephews). nothing much for me to do or say, he delayed after my advice and now it was purely a police
case, unfortunately for him , i had a matter in court, so i left him behind to sort himself. well going to the police for help or justice is sincerely a waste of time and money, i would have told him so straight away but an angry man in his situation may not listen to me, i had to allow him discover that for himself. he got to the police station and i believe was adviced to do the right thing, relocate his family. i refunded my legal fees, and wished him well. its sad when tenants  deliberately refuse to pay their rents, its also frustrating when landlords get delayed justice from our courts.  my advice to Tenants is that embarrassments like this is not worth it. please pay your rent and if you have financial issues be polite to your landlord, if things get so bad and you can no longer afford the rent, move to a cheaper apartment. as for landlords facing similar stress, get a competent lawyer to file an action in court, using touts is so uncivilized. its horific! Godbless

THE NEW DRIVER'S LICENCE

For some time now, i have being planning to commence the process of renewing my driver's licence. So i decided to visit the local government close to me today, for the process. when i got there i was told to produce my  current driver's licence which expires on the 1st of september 2013 for confirmation, the numbers on my driver's licence where entered into the system and i was told that it was not registered with the Federal Roads Safety Agency (FRS). in simple English it means my Driver's licence is FAKE! i was shocked, it was as if the ground should open and swallow me. how on earth  did i get a fake driver's licence. i had to take a few minutes to digest the news, i called my hubby first to inform him of my discovery, i expected him to be shocked but he responded calmly, 'only few people in Lagos State have the original driver's licence'. but i remember i got mine from (FRS) so why is mine fake, what a country. its funny that for three years i have being using an unregistered driver's licence, i have used this licence to process lots of documents, i have shown it to men of the FRS, Police, LASTMA etc, yet nobody ever queried it. well i recovered quickly and i was told the requirements, aside downloading the forms on line, i have to go to driving school, get learner's permit, come for driving test and take examination. i honestly do not have issues with the driving test, as far its an authomatic car i would be using for the test, and not the manual lorry given for the test. the process is tedious and hell! why cant we just make things easy for ourselves. well i have to be back to my office to prepare for my case tomorrow. wishing you a lovely week ahead. Godbless. Cheers.

CAR ROBBERY IN MY NEIGHBORHOOD

My neighbor was driving his truck(popularly called JEEP  in Nigeria) on his way home, from work after a hard day's work, our roads are bad, and so he was forced to slow down, after-all  he was almost home, just  five minutes drive and he would be home, then he heard a bang at the back of his truck, it was a bike rider with a passenger at the back (popularly called OKADA Riders in Lagos), the bike rider claimed that my neighbor had hit him from behind, he ignored them and continued driving, before he knew what was happening the bike rider was in front of his truck, shouting at him, he made the mistake of innocently arguing with them, before he could say 'Jack Robinson', the passenger on the bike jumped off, from the bike, other boys appeared with guns , they started to hit, my neighbour, pushed him away from the driver's seat, and drove off. with him in the car, they collected his ATM card, asked him for his pin number and threw him off the moving truck. He trekked  home, with blood dripping from his head. sadly lots of  people witnessed this but no one called for help or made any attempt to rescue him. he got home around 11pm, my husband drove him to the police station, to make a report, the policemen on duty were more interested in how much they could make from an injured victim. they requested for N5,000.00 before they would radio other units. my husband was so disappointed. well they had no cash on them so they left without dropping a dine but prayed that the police would make the call, then their next stop was  a private hospital, the doctors refused to attend to them, claiming that they would not treat him since the police was now involved. so they ended up at a government hospital, were my husband said they met,others who had just being attacked by robbers.a mother and her son particularly caught his attention, they had both received matchet  cuts on their heads from their attackers,  they got home around 1.30 am. That was risky. i am sharing this so that others would know how these robbers operate. When they hit you from behind, and in most cases you will stop to check your car and they attack. Christmas is around the corner, be careful. the case is still under investigation, the robbers withdrew, N40,000.00 from his account, our neighbor and the bank are trying to trace where the withdrawal was made. please dont leave too much money in an account you have with ATM CARD. we pray for a better police system and good roads in Nigeria,  for now we are all on our own. God please protect us all

CLIENT: "I WANT TO DIVORCE MY HUSBAND"

She worked into my office with a veil covering her head, and sunglasses covering her eyes, when she unveiled herself, I said a silent waoh! , she was the most beautiful female client to step into my office. I had been pre informed of the purpose of her visit but I wanted to hear it from her. We exchanged pleasantries and I asked why she wanted to see me, and out came the bomb ‘ I want to divorce my husband’. So I got my pen and paper and started to ask questions and take note. They have being married for less than two years, the marriage broke down three months after the marriage. The marriage ceremony took place in a marriage registry in Lagos State and no member of her family or friend was present. I asked for her marriage certificate, which is proof of marriage, but she claimed that the certificate was removed from her box by her husband. She wanted a divorce because after the marriage she discovered that information she had about him was false. Shortly after her marriage the realized that she was his sixth wife or should we say the sixth woman he would be marrying, she has no proof of a divorce with any of his wives, and he is over 25 years older than her. Her husband is based abroad, the plan before the marriage was for her to relocate and join him, but she later discovered that the original plan was for her to relocate to his village and live with his parents. That was why no accommodation was provided for her after the marriage. After listening to her story, and allowing her to dry her tears, I had to tell her the truth, citing and reading out the relevant sections from our Matrimonial Causes Act, I told her that she could not file for divorce less than two years after marriage unless she could proof that there was hardship or an exceptional depravity. But if she could proof that her husband was still married to any of these other women as at the time, she married him, then the marriage would be void and the court can grant a divorce. All other issues she raised where just sentimental, because as far as any one is concerned her family would have verified issues before giving their daughter out. She married for the money, and the dream of travelling abroad. I also suggested reconciliation, with the help of family members, that is if there is no proof of a subsisting marriage, but if really the marriage has broken down irretrievably then both parties can quietly divorce in court, with out going through an embarrassing trial.  This is my advice for young girls who just want to jump into marriage for the money, you soon discover that marriage is not a fairy tale, its all about patience, tolerance and real /genuine love. Look before you leap.